In the past days, all 4 things have happened.
I'm very amicable, loving and sweet and I don't have a temper, nor do i ever raise my voice.
What really disgusts me:
Sinks that are clogged with food leftovers. There is no way I can clean up other people's leftovers unless I wear latex gloves, and even then it is nauseating. Cleaning the sink right after food falls into it, isn't a problem as its "fresh". I think I believe the leftovers start rotting the instant I turn my back to them.
What really annoys me:
When people flake. I don't expect an excuse when people can't make it, but when I specifically ask to confirm if you can be there at a certain time, so i don't stand waiting, and nearly no one shows up, is a turn off.
The easiest way to know if someone flaked and feel guilty is when you call them regarding something completely different and they don't pick up, nor do they get back to you.
What really enrages me:
The only thing that will generally make me cry, is when people disrespect me. I'm extremely tolerant, I take a lot of shit from people and don't bother to stick up for myself because I often realize that their behaviour is motivated by insecurities. When someone has benefitted from my friendship or support and there's a mutual attachment that has been established and recognized, i don't tolerate disrespect as people who know me, know exactly that i consider this to be the highest betrayal of our friendship - closely followed by flaking.
If relationships change, we like an explanation, so we can empathize with the decision made and in my case, not obsessively contemplate about what I might have done to lead to this action.
This was all triggered when watching How I met your mother and a random gay guy at a club, tells one of the characters, she's wearing a really nice top. She immediately thanks him and starts a rant of how she ended up buying/receiving that top.
I immediately realized, and turned to Christian and said "We women do that a lot, just because we get some positive feedback we assume the person is interested in knowing the entire history, when it really just boils down to a compliment, period!
Women seem to be the explanatory type whereas men see this more as an excuse - all depending on which context you put it in of course.
I explain everything cause I'm scared of being misunderstood. I hate misunderstandings and I guess men think I'm all excuses :D
Back to job hunting!
/Jasmin Fischer
Monday, 16 February 2009
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2 comments:
Another interesting and unique post of yours. =)
Sinks that are clogged with food leftovers.
Ah yes, that is what the garbage can is for. Really is annoying having food rotting in the sink.
Flakedom. I think we all have had our fair share.
Hmm people actually disrespect someone as genuine and kind hearted as yourself? That's sort of hard to believe. I guess there are those bad apples out there at times.
Not to generalize, but most women love detail. I think it's a great thing, especially when you have someone that wants to hear all about it. Lucky for me, I enjoy details most of the time, however, not all the time. =)
All the best to you in finding work.
Yes, the garbage can!!
I love the sink-o- what's it called again that you all have in the US. No rotting food..mmmm! :D
Yea, we all hate flakers. I think that's universal. I just needed to announce it again as a certain someone has been getting very flaky and doesn't deal that well with conflict. I thought this was the nicer way than me getting up in his face ;D
You haven't even met me and you have such a good image of me..I guess we should really never meet then :D
But yes, most commonly this will happen in relationships or with family, because most people only really show their true colours when they know you well enough and are not scared this will break the foundation of your relationship.. ;)
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